#40 ASK KATARINA: Is Etiquette a Form of People Pleasing?

#40 ASK KATARINA: Is Etiquette a Form of People Pleasing?

Dear readers,

In a world where curse words in music have become the new norm and being indifferent (read: not giving a f**k) has become the new 'cool', displaying kind and proper manners might seem archaic and odd.
To my surprise, the matter has gone so far that I have started noticing people using the words
'etiquette' and 'people pleasing' interchangeably.

Bear in mind that anything, including etiquette, could turn into people pleasing if we let it, but the essence of etiquette in its core is very different. Let’s look at it more closely: 

WHAT IS PEOPLE PLEASING?
People pleasing is a behaviour where we prioritise others’ needs and approval over our own, often at the expense of our personal well-being. It can lead to feelings of resentment, stress, and inauthenticity. 

THE ESSENCE OF ETIQUETTE
Contrary to what some may think, etiquette isn’t about submitting to others or bending to every whim. Etiquette is a practice of respect - not just for others, but for ourselves. It’s about navigating the world with grace and confidence. When we follow proper etiquette, we elevate our interactions, expressing our most refined selves. It's not about being overly accommodating, but about creating a balanced environment where everyone, including ourselves, feels valued.

Becoming Confident, Authentic, and Successful with the Help of Etiquette
I am a big believer that etiquette empowers us to present our best selves in every situation. It builds self-confidence because we know how to carry ourselves with elegance, regardless of the circumstances.
When we master the art of etiquette, we become more successful - not because we are constantly seeking approval, but because we’re in tune with our authentic selves. We show others who we truly are through our actions, fostering respect, not submission.


I wish you a beautiful day filled with respect towards others as well as ourselves.

Yours sincerely,
Katarina

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